"The significant problem we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them."
attributed to Albert Einstein by Mike Cohen
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Wednesday, September 22
Wants > Needs > Values
After seeing off my son at 6:20am, I sat on the sofa to have a little rest before my daughter wakes up at 7:0oam. My husband was watching TV in the living room. As usual, he is a super soccer fan and each kick caught his full attention. There was no "Good morning" so I assumed that he did not recognize me was in the living room, to ease my loneliness.
Soon, I felt he was so far away from me. I WANTED his attention. To be honest, I wanted his loving hug in the early morning to cheer up my day. After 5 minutes, there was no sign of change. My self-pity evil came into my mind and stirred up my suspection of not being loved. The ego me started shouting fiercely to echo my anger and unsatisfaction.
A little breeze came into the living room from the window and whispered, "Do you NEED love from your husband?" I replied, "Of course, I need his love and I know he loves me. He is taking good care of the family." "Then, why are you grumbling now?" said the breeze. "Well, you are right. He is a good man. Though he might not able to fulfill my strong desire of being loved, he is doing a fairly good job." my voice calmed down.
I remained sitting on the sofa and waiting for the magical moment to happen. Soccer game score was tied to 2 : 2 between Liverpool and Manchester. The game did not attract my attention at all, instead I was drawn to a thinking mood. I thought of my recent schedule was quite full as my volunteer work increased. Yet, I enjoy my life and connection with people because caring people is one of my important life VALUES.
"VALUE" - What a beautiful word struck in to my mind! I was awaken immediately from my ego child. At this moment, my emotion was totally shifted and I wanted to caring my husband. I felt he needs a shoulder massage to release his soar pain accumulated by work. I came forward to him and gently massaging his stiff shoulders. He responded well and seemed enjoying very much. My heart was in peace and a loving voice by my side encouraging me to give and give. I felt relax and happy because I have overcome the ego of WANT. There was no more self-pity, anger and unsatisfaction. The scene created there was [A gentle wife was complimented by her husband with a soft "THANK YOU!" ]
I am happy to have experienced the WANTS > NEEDS > VALUES evolutionary progression. Thank you Personal Freedom!
Soon, I felt he was so far away from me. I WANTED his attention. To be honest, I wanted his loving hug in the early morning to cheer up my day. After 5 minutes, there was no sign of change. My self-pity evil came into my mind and stirred up my suspection of not being loved. The ego me started shouting fiercely to echo my anger and unsatisfaction.
A little breeze came into the living room from the window and whispered, "Do you NEED love from your husband?" I replied, "Of course, I need his love and I know he loves me. He is taking good care of the family." "Then, why are you grumbling now?" said the breeze. "Well, you are right. He is a good man. Though he might not able to fulfill my strong desire of being loved, he is doing a fairly good job." my voice calmed down.
I remained sitting on the sofa and waiting for the magical moment to happen. Soccer game score was tied to 2 : 2 between Liverpool and Manchester. The game did not attract my attention at all, instead I was drawn to a thinking mood. I thought of my recent schedule was quite full as my volunteer work increased. Yet, I enjoy my life and connection with people because caring people is one of my important life VALUES.
"VALUE" - What a beautiful word struck in to my mind! I was awaken immediately from my ego child. At this moment, my emotion was totally shifted and I wanted to caring my husband. I felt he needs a shoulder massage to release his soar pain accumulated by work. I came forward to him and gently massaging his stiff shoulders. He responded well and seemed enjoying very much. My heart was in peace and a loving voice by my side encouraging me to give and give. I felt relax and happy because I have overcome the ego of WANT. There was no more self-pity, anger and unsatisfaction. The scene created there was [A gentle wife was complimented by her husband with a soft "THANK YOU!" ]
I am happy to have experienced the WANTS > NEEDS > VALUES evolutionary progression. Thank you Personal Freedom!
10 Pillars of Personal Freedom
- Extend your boundaries in order to maximize your capacity.
- Share your requirements so others and your environment will be able to respond appropriately.
- Raise your standards to bring our your best.
- Finish what is unfinished so that the past is completed and nothing is hanging on.
- Get your personal needs met so that you are free to be fully with other people and ideas.
- Orient around your values to create a sustainable base for goal-setting.
- Build reserves in all areas in order to expand your capacities an dminimize limits.
- Minimize tolerations in order to absence drains.
- Handle your money completely. Period.
- Define success on your tems so that your benchmarks and accomplishments make sense to you and are wasy to recognize.
What is Personal Freedom?
Personal Freedom is a program developed by Thomas J. Leonard, Founder, Coachville. Coach Bonnie is a member of School of Coachville (SOC) and licensed to use the program.
